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Building Bridges 

17 Monday Jul 2017

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Do you know your love language? Do you know what love languages are? I’m a fan of the love language concept and I’ve shared it with others. Maybe check them out and discover what is your language.

Recently I received an email from them with some examples and I think they will be a blessing to you. This is quoted directly from their email.

WORDS OF AFFIRMATION:

Compliments sometimes mean extra when given in the presence of others. Make sure to let your loved ones know how much you care for them in front of other people, too!

ACTS OF SERVICE:

What if you switch the way you think about nagging: instead of being annoyed, learn to hear it as, “This is a task that is really important to me, and I will feel so loved when it is completed.” Use nagging as a simple reminder from your partner to love him or her better!

RECEIVING GIFTS:

Give your partner a gift every day for a week. Whether extremely creative or sweetly simple, the flow of gifts will make an impact and will create a week to be remembered by both of you!

QUALITY TIME:

Instead of asking your loved one, “How was your day?” ask a fresh question, like, “What was the best part of your day?” “What was a success you had today?” or “What did you struggle with today?” Make sure to create enough time to truly listen and care.

PHYSICAL TOUCH:

Research has shown that babies who are held, hugged, and kissed develop more healthily than those who are neglected. But people never outgrow their need for physical affection! Remember to hug your loved ones this week.

What do you think? Can you speak these love languages? Have you ever taken an assessment to determine your own love language? If so, what is your primary language?

 

Three E’s – Expression

17 Monday Nov 2014

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Last week in our series, The Three E’s to a Marvellous Marriage, we considered the first E: Exclusiveness.  Your challenge was to begin making your mate first in your life; to love your lover more than you love yourself. Being truly Exclusive with your spouse will help you begin building a Marvellous Marriage and it will naturally lead to the next E in our series, Expression.

You probably know at least one person who is an expert at expression, particularly when it comes to pointing out what we do wrong. That’s not what I am talking about. Expression means communicating loving affirmation to your spouse. This can be quite challenging but it’s worth it. It has been found that consistent loving affirmation will affair-proof your marriage and ensure it’s success. (For a really good article on this, click here.)

There are many barriers to communicating love to your mate. One barrier is that our willingness to give loving affirmation comes and goes depending on mood or circumstances. Choosing to live out Exclusiveness means we strive to act on what is best for our partner at all times. Living our Expression means that regardless of the payoff, how we feel, or how our life is going we strive to always affirm our partner.

Another barrier is simply not being aware what love sounds like to your partner. Your mate may feel most loved when you spend time with her, giving her your undivided attention. Your spouse may feel most loved when you simply tell him how much you appreciate him, what he does, what he means to you. The point is you need to ask you partner when he or she feels most loved and then act on that information, expressing your love in a way they can best receive it.

Next week, we’ll look at our last E to a Marvellous Marriage.