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Calm Down! 

02 Friday Jun 2017

Posted by braddahr in health, Observations, recovery

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calm, chill, relax, take it easy, time out

IMG_0138Do spend any time around children? They tend to be little balls of energy that can explode at any moment. I think adults are the same but usually low key. In my experience, yelling at children to calm down doesn’t work very well – go figure.

Recently I stumbled upon this article:  50 calm-down ideas to try with kids of all ages. Our children are adults now but we do have three grand babies and I am testing these ideas out on them. The upside is, if they fail horribly, I just get to go home and let mom figure it out. Actually, I haven’t tried or even seriously reviewed all of the ideas but a few jumped out to me. If you’re willing and able, maybe give some a try and let me know how it goes.

And here’s another thought: it says for kids of all ages. Perhaps they are good for us adults, too. Anyway, here are the handful I have tried so far:

  • Drink water – Pour a tall class of cold water and sip it slowly.
  • Sing out loud – I found this works but only until the GBs starting fighting over which song to play. The trick is to find a song they all like to sing.
  • Jump high – I don’t know if this is calming but it can sure be distracting – sometimes beggars can’t be choosers.
  • Take a cold shower – I haven’t done this with the GBs but in one of my least proud parenting moments, once when our daughter was having a melt down, I put her in the shower and turned on the cold water. I don’t remember it calming her down.
  • Watch fish – We don’t have fish but getting the GBs to focus on creatures does seem to calm them.
  • Talk it out – I use this one with our oldest GB as he can talk about what he’s feeling. Most of the time, it seems he becomes upset because he’s feeling unheard.

Check out the article and let me know what happens.

Five Senses Exercise

28 Wednesday Dec 2016

Posted by braddahr in health, Observations, recovery

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anxiety, calm, healing, help, hope, personal, recovery

Struggling with anxiety? Stressed out?  Can’t stop worrying or thinking about something? Can’t focus? Feeling upset? Sometimes we feel like we’re caught up in a tornado of thoughts and emotions.

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The exercise below is a quick and easy method for feeling more centred on a tough day. It’s also great to practice at times when you’re not as stressed so you know exactly how to use it when you need it the most.

If begin to notice thoughts coming into your mind, that is COMPLETELY normal. Our brains are designed to think but we can learn to refocus our attention. Take this as an opportunity to be kind to yourself and not judge. Just notice that you are having thoughts, then, redirect your attention back to the present moment.

1. Sit in a comfortable upright position with your feet planted flat on the ground. Rest your hands on your thighs or on your desk.
2. Notice your breath. No need to breathe in any particular way. Just bring attention to each part of the breath- the inhale, exhale, and space in between.

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3. Bring awareness to each of your 5 senses. One at a time, for about one minute each. The point here is to focus on the present moment and how each sense is being activated in that moment. The order in which you pay attention to each sense does not matter.

Hear: Begin to notice all of the sounds around you. Try not to judge the sounds- just notice them. They are not good or bad, they just are. Sounds might be internal, like breathing or digestion. Sounds might be close by or more distant like the sound of traffic. Are you now hearing more than you were before you started? You may begin to notice subtle sounds you did not hear before. Can you hear them now?

Smell: Now shift your attention to notice the smells of your environment. Maybe you smell food. You might become aware of the smell of trees or plants if you are outside. You might notice the smell of books or paper. Sometimes closing your eyes can help sharpen your attention.

See: Observe your surrounding and notice the colors, shapes and textures. If you really look, you may notice things that have gone unnoticed.

Taste: You can do this one even if you have food in your mouth. You may notice an aftertaste of a previous drink or meal. You can just notice your tongue in your mouth, your saliva, and your breath as you exhale. We have tastes in our mouth that often go unnoticed. You can run your tongue over your teeth and cheeks to help you become more aware.

Touch: Last one. Bring your attention to the sensations of skin contact with your chair, clothing, and feet on the floor. You can notice the pressure between your feet and the floor or your body and the chair. You can observe temperature like the warmth or coolness of your hands or feet. You might take time to feel the textures that you noticed by sight a moment ago. You can feel several objects on your desk to fully focus your attention on the present.

When finished, pause to notice how your body feels in this moment. Compare how you feel now with how you felt 5 minutes ago- what has changed? Try this exercise next time you’re feeling overwhelmed. This can be useful to use before a test or speech, too!

I’m not sure how to best reference this information. It seems a number of people write about it but I haven’t found a source yet. I found the above at http://www.clayton.edu/Portals/541/docs/Five%20Senses%20Mindfulness%20Exercise.pdfwhere is says, “Exercise adapted rom: Clayton State University, Counselling and Psychological Services, Edgewater Hall, Suite 245, 678-466-5406

Wounds Kissed

28 Sunday Aug 2016

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calm, disasters, Love, Wounds

I stumbled across this from a friend. I hope there is someone in your life like this.

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Advice for Triathlons and Life

22 Monday Aug 2016

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anxiety, calm, panic, stress, triathlon

This is a really good observation and relevant for me – I just competed in a triathlon and the next few days are going to be high anxiety/stress.

I had something happen to me today that has never happened to me before, I had a flat tire during a race. I have completed over 30 triathlons and 15 bike races and events, and never had a flat during the race or event. I have had flats during training, before the race or event, […]

via Slow Is Smooth, Smooth Is Fast — Robinson’s Strength and Endurance Coaching

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