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Monthly Archives: November 2014

Three E’s – Excitement

25 Tuesday Nov 2014

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husband, Love, marriage, marvellous, Passion, spouse, wife

Welcome back to the Three E’s to a Marvellous Marriage. So far, we’ve considered Exclusiveness and Expression.  Our challenge is to be Exclusive with our mate; make spouse first in our life; to love our lover more than we love ourselves. At the same time, we seek to Express our love to our mate. That means listening to their heart, how do they experience love, and then acting on it. Now for our last E to a Marvellous Marriage: Excitement.

When we are courting and newly married, we are flush with romantic love; infatuation mixed with some steamy passion. We stay up all night talking on the phone, impulsively buy a dozen roses or run away for the weekend. These exciting feelings are normal and natural and they serve a purpose – to develop deeper intimacy with your mate. The infatuation that comes with courting and even early marriage ensures your attention is absorbed by your partner; you are Exclusive. You want your mate to know she is first in your life so at every opportunity you are affirming and loving; you overflow with Expression. Your relationship overflows with excitement. Does it last?

Over time, life becomes routine, there are bills to pay, possibly children to raise… our Excitement wanes. A friend told me how happy she was that she was married. She said, “I was worried I would have to keep up that fitness thing forever.”

While we have responsibilities and it’s not realistic to maintain the infatuation high, you can still have Excitement in your relationship and it doesn’t require huge amounts of time or money. What it needs is for you to be intentional. Shut off the idiot box (you really won’t miss anything), skip a meeting and go for lunch, put down the iPad (well, after you finish this blog). Have a picnic in your living room. Just go for a walk together. You get the idea.

It’s not going to be easy. Everything good takes time, faith and work. Love is worth it. Your marriage is worth it. Your spouse is worth it. You are worth it. Now go build your Marvellous Marriage!

Three E’s – Expression

17 Monday Nov 2014

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affair, communication, divorce, Love, love language, marriage, partner, selfless

Last week in our series, The Three E’s to a Marvellous Marriage, we considered the first E: Exclusiveness.  Your challenge was to begin making your mate first in your life; to love your lover more than you love yourself. Being truly Exclusive with your spouse will help you begin building a Marvellous Marriage and it will naturally lead to the next E in our series, Expression.

You probably know at least one person who is an expert at expression, particularly when it comes to pointing out what we do wrong. That’s not what I am talking about. Expression means communicating loving affirmation to your spouse. This can be quite challenging but it’s worth it. It has been found that consistent loving affirmation will affair-proof your marriage and ensure it’s success. (For a really good article on this, click here.)

There are many barriers to communicating love to your mate. One barrier is that our willingness to give loving affirmation comes and goes depending on mood or circumstances. Choosing to live out Exclusiveness means we strive to act on what is best for our partner at all times. Living our Expression means that regardless of the payoff, how we feel, or how our life is going we strive to always affirm our partner.

Another barrier is simply not being aware what love sounds like to your partner. Your mate may feel most loved when you spend time with her, giving her your undivided attention. Your spouse may feel most loved when you simply tell him how much you appreciate him, what he does, what he means to you. The point is you need to ask you partner when he or she feels most loved and then act on that information, expressing your love in a way they can best receive it.

Next week, we’ll look at our last E to a Marvellous Marriage.

Occult Epistemology from apokalupto

14 Friday Nov 2014

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conspiracy, God, Jesus Christ, mark of the beast, monster, Symbolism

Recently a video hit the internet and a good friend of mine wrote a short overview of why these kinds of videos hurt our walk with God rather than enhance it. As he did a brilliant job, I just figure I would share it as a link. If you’re interested in spiritual things please take a moment and read it.

Monster Energy Drink Is Anti-Christ: A Case Study In Occult Epistemology

Three E’s – Exclusiveness

12 Wednesday Nov 2014

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exclusive, God, Love, marriage, principles, selfish

If you’re married, I’m also going to assume you want a marriage that’s healthy and truly lasts until death do you part. I want to suggest three principles that I have found to help my own relationship and the relationships of my friends. These principles all begin with the letter E: Three E’s to a Marvellous Marriage.

It’s ironic that we are selfish beings and at the same time seek to have a life-long, intimate, relationship which demands unselfishness. No wonder making a marvellous marriage is a struggle! If you fail to address your selfishness it won’t be long before your marriage suffers.

The first E to a marvellous marriage: Exclusiveness. Exclusiveness is being with only one person and putting the needs of that person before your own. It means loving another person more than you love yourself. Faced with a major decision Exclusiveness means you first ask yourself what will be best for your spouse and your marriage rather than what’s best for you. What are you putting before your spouse; what is getting in the way of deeper intimacy with the love of your life?

This week I invite you to make a conscious effort to make your spouse first in your life; love your lover more than you love yourself. Next week we will take a look at the next E to a marvellous marriage.

 

Three E’s to a Marvellous Marriage

04 Tuesday Nov 2014

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Cosmopolitan, Love, marriage, relationships

I’m going to assume that you want to love and be loved in return. If you’re married, I’m also going to assume you want a marriage that’s healthy and truly lasts until death do you part. What do you do when things get tough? What do you do when things start to cool? What do you do?

A casual glance at the magazines along the grocery store check out reveals there is lots of advice on how to improve our relationships. Unfortunately, most of it’s the same old stuff just regurgitated every month.

They're all the same!

They’re all the same!

Rather than some quick tips that might make you pull a muscle, over the next few weeks, I want to suggest three principles that I have found to help my own relationship and the relationships of my friends. These principles all begin with the letter E; Three E’s to a Marvellous Marriage.

Stay tuned for for the first E next week.

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